I lost my mother suddenly in 2001. I got a chance to speak to her over the phone a few weeks before she died, but the last 10 years or so of her life we were not close. To be honest we were never close, but the saddest part of all this for me was that I hadn't seen her in close to 10 years and I had no idea how much time had passed until she was gone. I was raised by my dad and two stepmothers (wow topic for another blog post) and I was used to long periods of time passing without seeing mom. Below, I added an older picture of her (she was pregnant with me at the time) and put an old high school grad pic of me in lower left corner of frame.
I live in California...somewhere around 1991-92 my mother left California and moved back to her hometown of Shreveport, Louisiana. We talked on the phone from time to time. She kept promising to return to California, but in 2001 she died...she never made it back here. Two weeks before she died she called me. She told me that she had recently been hospitalized for about 6 weeks. I was stunned. Anyone that spends that much time in a hospital bed has a pretty serious issue going on. My mother at that time was about 68 years old. I say that because she was always sooo secretive about her age. She explained to me that she had been diagnosed with a breathing problem that she developed from all the years of her life that she had smoked marijuana. She complained to me that her breathing had gotten so bad that at times she struggled to catch her breath ( I added several links at the bottom of this blog post regarding the dangers of smoking marijuana).
She told me that her breathing was under control now and that she was gaining weight from the steroids in the medication the doctor had prescribed to her. We laughed about it. See, all my life I have struggled with my weight but my mother was always thin and petite. I told her I was happy to hear that she was okay. Two weeks later I had to be pulled out into the parking lot at work to be told that my mother had been found dead that morning. She had died in her sleep. According to the coroner's report she aspirated in her sleep (she suffocated on fluid in her lungs). Her death was associated with a chronic breathing condition she hadn't even had that long. Like me most of my siblings had only heard about it just a few weeks before she died. At the time she told me, we (the rest of her children) were all just hearing the news...none of us had even heard of the possibly that a person could develop a chronic breathing condition from smoking "weed"....WUH??....
People die from diseases directly linked to alcoholism, and lung disease from smoking tobacco and both those substances are legal. So will it cure all the world's woes if we legalize it, (marijuana)? Or should it stay illegal?..Like I said, I am not writing this post to debate this topic. Regardless to whether or not it is legalized, I still wouldn't smoke it...but I would be less than honest if I said I never smoked it. As a teenager I gave in to peer pressure and smoked it with the rest of my friends. That was over 20 years ago. I couldn't work, I couldn't attend school. I couldn't function and I was always paranoid. Wow!!..what sense did it make to use something that altered my lifestyle so much (now I am speaking about me...not judging anyone else). I am proud to say I have lived my life free from it since...with NO desire to EVER smoke it again.
BUT.....my biggest concern is that people think it is harmless...Well my mother thought it was harmless too and now I don't have her anymore...STOP calling it harmless people, and stop making jokes about it...cause it is not harmless.
Be kind to yourselves...
More on the potential dangers of smoking marijuana...
Marijuana Smokers Face Rapid Lung Disease
Respiratory health effects of cannabis
Marijuana Side Effects
Marijuana worsens breathing problems in current smokers
Marijuana Addiction is a Progressive Disease









